And as a parent of a child with a partial hearing loss there are some things I do not want to hear (awkward phrasing I know).
- If I had a choice between being deaf and being blind, I'd choose deaf.
- It's not a game. The point is he didn't get a choice. It's not like you have to have a disability and you get to choose. It's not any less sad because he isn't blind. He could have been normal. He could have been healthy.
- No, no, no he won't. Unless I have explicitly explained what is wrong with him to you or you have independently researched dilated vestibular aqueducts, don't offer me hope, just shut up.
- I AM POSITIVE. I can see the best case scenario. I know that we are lucky he doesn't have a more serious condition. I know we are lucky to have him at all. I spend my days laughing a smiling and marvelling at how wonderful he is. But that doesn't make him any less deaf and it doesn't make me any less heartbroken. And I am entitled to be sad about it every now and then.
- Seriously?! I have two points to make here
- Just because he is more likely to be bullied because he wears hearing aids doesn't mean that I am going to bring him up to be a bully or a thug.
- If he hits his head (or someone else hits it) he will lose his hearing altogether - back to point 2 - if you don't know the full story, don't offer an opinion. Please.
- It's not a black and white problem. Deaf kid + hearing aids = hearing kid. I wish. The sounds he hears through his hearing aids aren't the same as the sound we hear and he still needs to learn to listen (not hear, listen) in order to pick up language. And there is the issue that he won't always wear his hearing aids. And more to the point it's our choice to learn and teach sign language - not yours.
- I know. I don't feel guilty because he is not any of those things. I am proud of my son and everything he is, even his bad points (mainly because they are clearly from me! dramatic temper tantrum anyone?) I feel guilty because he is deaf.